On March 9th we celebrate the feast of St. Frances of Rome, an Italian wife and mother who lived in the late 14th and early 15th century.
At a young age Frances decided she wanted to become a nun, however, her wealthy father objected. It was arranged for her to marry a young nobleman from another wealthy family.
She complained to her confessor, who in turn replied, “Are you crying because you want to do God’s will, or because you want God to do your will?”
She then reluctantly accepted her role as a wife in order to fulfill God’s will, however she still longed for a quiet, contemplative life away from the social demands her position required.
As Catholic mothers it’s often hard to balance the demands of family life with our desire to live quiet, contemplative lives devoted to Our Lord.
I know at times I would love to be able to retreat into a quiet space and get lost in lost in a good Catholic book or indulge in prayer and conversation with my Father in Heaven.
However, with my responsibilities of cleaning the house, making meals, homeschooling, and caring for an infant it seems as if there’s not much time left for the contemplative life.
But then I remind myself that every act of service I do for my family, is actually done for God. Every dish washed, every meal prepared, every lesson taught, and every care given to my baby is a prayer given to God.
Marriage and motherhood are demanding and require a lot of time and effort, but the rewards are endless. And when we long to give our time to Jesus instead, it’s important to remember that by accepting this vocation we are loving Him and doing His will for our lives, thus giving Him what He desires from us.
St. Frances went on to be a devoted wife and mother, mystic, philanthropist, and founder of a religious community.
St. Frances of Rome, pray for us!